Why no form of education is a waste

“The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you'll go.” ― Dr. Seuss

“The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.”
― Dr. Seuss

Ever since I can remember, my parents always drilled it into me that I needed to educate myself. I was brought up to seek answers for all the questions I may have, and because of this I have developed a love for learning and improving my understanding on the world around me. My Mother is a teacher (by nature and profession) who has this hunger to acquire knowledge like no one I have ever known; and it definitely rubbed off onto me.

After I graduated and started working, I became increasingly frustrated because I wanted more. I know I want to further my studies and it is something I would love to pursue for as long as I can – even if it is outside of the field I am currently working in. I realise this may sound ridiculous to some people because in their minds if I study something else then everything I worked for over the past few years would go to waste. This thinking bothers me…

Maybe it was the way I was raised but I believe that any knowledge you gain can never be a waste. We live in a world so vast and extraordinary that our minds cannot begin to comprehend the complexity of it all! And I believe that anything you learn builds a better understanding of the world.

If I ever decide to further my studies in a different field, all the knowledge I have gained up until then would not be in vain. I have improved my perception in a certain part of the world which ultimately means that I have a better view of things than what I had before I studied. Even more so, I have gained skills that would help me in the long run.

In this world we try to put a price on everything. And since we have to pay for furthering our education, we immediately put a price tag on our qualifications. Instead of looking at it as improving ourselves, and answering questions about the world we may have; we think of the experience as a commodity. And if we don’t use our qualifications then it automatically means that we wasted our time and money on something we “wont be using”.

However, I regard by knowledge and education as a key which I use to better myself. It is my tool which I can use to give back to the world in some way or another. And above all else it makes me appreciate the world I live in and the life I am living…

As my late grandfather Sheikh Shakier Gamieldien said:

“Your knowledge should make you humble; because the more you know, the more you realise you don’t know.”

– Nihaad

FOMO

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When it comes to keeping up with the techno-slang, I fall way behind. These days when I log onto social media platforms I have to keep Google open on a separate tab so that I can search the meaning of these words that might as well be a foreign language to me. But ever since I came across the term FOMO and discovered what it actually stands for, it was as if someone had turned on a switch in my mind.

Since this is a term being thrown around so often these days, I gather FOMO is a very real occurrence in today’s society. I have no doubt that it’s a result of our exposure to other people’s lives through social media. It can be so easy to fall into the trap of questioning your life plans when you see someone else doing what you wish you could be doing in that very moment.

But I have realised, that the more I fixate on something that I could be doing, the more I am letting opportunities pass me by to do something in that moment. I am living in my mind instead of living. For example:

Last week I was feeling so blagh, I wanted to get out and do something fun. But I ended up wasting so much time moping that I let an entire day pass me by and I could get nothing done. At about 5:30 that evening the husband took me for a drive up Signal Hill, and even though it was a short outing, it did me the world of good to get out and see the beauty of this city I call home.
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Sometimes we get swept away by the life we are trying to build for ourselves that we forget to live the life we want. I am sick of the FOMO!! I prefer to enjoy the spur of the moment drive up Signal Hill on a misty Sunday evening with my favourite person in the world; instead of dreaming about the end of year holidays. Yes I am excited for the holidays, but I don’t want to wait until then to have some adventure, I don’t want the days in between to go by uneventful. After all, Happiness is a journey not a destination.

Wake Me Up When September Ends…

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As you’ve gathered, I am sure, by the title of this post; I am a huge fan of Greenday! Ever since I first heard American Idiot, its been my life long dream to play the drums (or wail an electric guitar) like a punk rock chick! But I digress. This post is not about a really cool band, but rather about the reasons behind why I’ve been so quiet the past few weeks.

I do apologise for being MIA, especially since my last post and how motivated I was to continue working on my blog. But life was so incredibly hectic that I just wanted someone to, well, wake me up when it ends!!

– My husband got called in for an interview halfway through the month and the next day when he left from said interview, he received a call from the company offering him the position. We were ecstatic, because after searching for about 3 months, and him burning to get back into the working world, we felt like it was the opportunity he’s been searching for.

– This however meant that we had to wake up at 5 every morning in order to leave the house by 6am so that he can drop me off at work by 6:30am for him to be at work on time (7:30am). The days were reeeeeally long so by the time 5pm rolled by, all I wanted was to get home and sleep! Yes we were mentally and physically drained by the end of each day, but we were both so grateful for the experience.

– The husband also graduated in the same week that he started working, so we had a wonderful celebration in honour of his achievement – Proud of you babe!!
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– It was also Eid-al-Adha (Belated Eid Mubarak to all Muslim readers) which fell on Heritage Day here in South Africa, and it was amazing to spend the day with the family.
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It was heart-breaking to hear about the tragedies which occurred in Mecca; and I do wish to take this opportunity to send my duaahs (prayers) to all the families and friends that were affected by those horrific events.

– The husband had a rather traumatic experience during his first week on the job. A man had an asthma attack on site, and he was the one to take him to the clinic. After doing everything they could, the man unfortunately passed away; and Taufeeq was there to witness this.

– The next week on his way to mosque, Taufeeq was involved in a car accident. He was hit from behind, and the car was left with a nasty dent and some scratches, but thankfully he came out of it unscathed.

– During the early hours of Monday morning we received a phone call that a really close member of the family had passed. It was so sudden and unexpected; a truly difficult time for the family. It meant a lot though that I could offer my support during such a trying time.

– To end off the month of September, Taufeeq received a call from a company who he had interviewed with about a month ago. After waiting so long we all figured that the application was unsuccessful, which is why he took the first job. But on Tuesday he was contacted and they informed him that his interview was a success! He went in on Wednesday to fill out the paper work, and Alghamdulillah we are so grateful for this break. After reminding him each day to sabr (be patient) and have faith that things will fall into place the way it should, it was exactly what we both needed.

We all experience times when we feel like nothing at all is going right. It is a reminder that as much as we plan and worry about life, we have absolutely no control over what happens. The beauty of it is that after facing the challenges and difficulties thrown in our path, we get to appreciate the good things that comes our way so much more. And now that we are in the month of October, a new month with fresh new possibilities; we learn to accept certain things that we have no power to change and move on. We learn to appreciate the good with the bad, and to make the most out of each day.

How has the past few weeks been treating you?

– Nihaad

Between Shades of Gray by Ruta Sepetys

IMG_20150905_121537I am a huge fan of historical fiction. I think it all started in high school when we read Anne Frank and I could not fathom that people had those experiences in the same world I live in today. I especially cannot believe that disturbingly similar events are happening in this world today – as I write this!! Historical fiction tells stories that are most of the time based on real life experiences; and that alone has the power to make one see the world from a whole new perspective.

When I completed Between Shades of Gray I was speechless. Even more so after reading the author’s note and learning about Stalin and the horrendous crimes that were committed under his dictatorship. For a while I was concerned about my memory because I could not remember ever being taught about this in school. I vividly recall the lessons about Hitler’s Holocaust; but I don’t remember ever learning about the deportation of citizens from Lithuania, Estonia, and Latvia during World War II. I only took history up until grade 9 but still, it seems like a significant part of world events that has been over looked. Then I saw that so many others are wondering the same thing – why was this traumatic, vitally important part of history being left out of the school syllabus? Especially considering that it is so closely linked to Nazi Germany.

Lina is just like any other fifteen-year-old Lithuanian girl in 1941. She paints, she draws, she gets crushes on boys. Until one night when Soviet officers barge into her home, tearing her family from the comfortable life they’ve known. Separated from her father, forced onto a crowded and dirty train car, Lina, her mother, and her young brother slowly make their way north, crossing the Arctic Circle, to a work camp in the coldest reaches of Siberia. Here they are forced, under Stalin’s orders, to dig for beets and fight for their lives under the cruelest of conditions.

Lina finds solace in her art, meticulously–and at great risk–documenting events by drawing, hoping these messages will make their way to her father’s prison camp to let him know they are still alive. It is a long and harrowing journey, spanning years and covering 6,500 miles, but it is through incredible strength, love, and hope that Lina ultimately survives.Between Shades of Gray is a novel that will steal your breath and capture your heart.

Between Shades of Gray was an extremely compelling read – one that I will be reading for years to come. The way Ruta Sepetys captures the unimaginable circumstances these people were forced to endure, chilled me to the bone. Yet, this story was so heart warming because you read about people who had this hope and faith in the world despite the life they were trying surviving. Throughout the book there was this contrast of good, and pure evil that made me so angry. I was angry about the cruelty of the world, I was angry that one person’s life meant so little to another and I was angered by the audacity of some to even think that they were better than someone else – let alone treat another human life as if it meant nothing. I think most of all, I was gutted when I realised that so many more of these stories would never be told because the world do not even know that they exist in the first place.

But, Ruta Sepetys told this story in such a way that you are left feeling at peace. You are left feeling determined and strong to dare hope that better days will greet you in the end. Through all the terror and heartache, you cannot help but have hope in humanity. And this is why I was left utterly speechless – I find it so hard to explain. And I do not think I should, because every person needs to pick up this book and read it. Read it for all those people who were taken from this world without a chance to tell their story.

– Nihaad

Have you learned about these historical events during school? What other historical fiction books would you recommend I read? Please leave a comment, I am really eager to know!

The Liebster Award

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I know I recently posted the The Versatile Blogger Award for which I was nominated; but I was tagged by the weirdly, wonderful, Poppie Tee for the Liebster award some time ago too, and I am here to finally accept the challenge she has bestowed upon me!

If you have not visited her blog then please do; she shares her unique take on life as a university student, and puts a special twist on thoughts most of us have on a daily bases. These are the questions she has thrown my way:

1. What is your least favourite food?
Calamari!
2.How did you come up with your blog name?
I just wanted to start a blog! And in order for me to create one on WordPress, I needed a unique name. I wasn’t sure what my blog will be about because I didn’t have a niche that I planned on sticking to, so I wanted a name that would allow me to dwindle on any topic I chose.
3. What is your pet-peeve?
I have so many pet-peeves!! I can’t stand it when people mix up my study notes. I get annoyed when people highlight or write in textbooks. I loathe filler words such as basically or literally. I detest disorganization!!!
4. If, you were to be given a ticket to anywhere in the world, where would you go?
I would go to… Anywhere in the world!! (hehe)
5. What is your favourite topic of conversation?
I love talking about books!!!
6. Which actor/actress would you most likely run away with?
James Spade!!! I am a huge fan of Raymond Reddington.
7. Which TV series/ book sequel do you most enjoy?
My favourite TV series is The Blacklist (obvz). My favourite book series is turning out to be Harry Potter!
8. Name one thing that you think needs to change in this world.
Every child should receive a decent education – I believe education will fix so much that is wrong in the world.
9. What do you do to unwind?
Relax with my husband, or read…
10. Do you prefer Apple or Android?
Android!
11. Do you like sneakers or formal shoes?
I think this picture answers the question:
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I hereby nominated the following fellow bloggers to complete the same questions:
Lolsy’s Library
From a Day Dreamer’s Diary
Lemontierres
Lumos and Lemons
Zoelicious Insider
Surviving the Madness
Curious Robyn

(*If you’ve been nominated before or if you do not wish to complete the challenge then it is completely fine; I just wanted to share the fact that I love your blog!*)

– Nihaad

Why you should not care what people think

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Something that I am becoming increasingly aware of, is that most of us tend to care far too much about what other people think of us. It can be a good thing if it allows you to perform to the best of your abilities, but in most cases it has far more negative effects. This is my little list of why you should stop caring what other people think:

1) It will make you happy
As long as you worry about the opinions of others’, it will control the way you live your life. You will be miserable. You will constantly try to please everyone around you which is impossible to do! Focus on what you want, and what brings you joy – this way you know for sure that at least one person (and the most important person, in this case) is happy.

2) You will be less stressed
If you try to please everyone around you because you’re so concerned that they might think badly of you, it will stress you out to no end. The faster you learn to not let it get to you, the faster you will get rid of the unnecessary stress it causes. There is so much more you can gain from a single day if you cut out the negativity that comes with worrying about another person’s opinion. At the end of the day, if your choice makes you sleep better at night and puts an extra bit of bounce in your step, then that is all that matters really.

3) You will not resent others’
If you are not following a path that YOU have chosen for yourself, you will become resentful. This could make you really bitter because you will not be able to be happy for the next person who does their own thing as it reminds you of the possibilities you might have missed. And so the vicious cycle continues its rapid spin; creating another unhappy, cynical person in this world, who places the exact kind of stress on another person – the same kind of stress, mind you, that you were trying to avoid for yourself to start with.

4) You cannot make everyone happy
And quite frankly, you shouldn’t try! Those who matter will support you and encourage you to do what you want to do, simply because they want to see you happy. Anyone who has something negative to say based on choices you make (that you feel are the right ones for you) are people who are not brave enough to take the necessary steps required to change their own lives for the better.

It can be extremely difficult to ignore what people think. Sometimes we do it without meaning to and it causes more harm than good most of the time. But in order to find peace and happiness, in order to be satisfied with the choices you have made for yourself, you need to figure out how to stop caring too much about what others’ have to say. Live your life for yourself – you will thank yourself one day!

– Nihaad