Why you should not care what people think

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Something that I am becoming increasingly aware of, is that most of us tend to care far too much about what other people think of us. It can be a good thing if it allows you to perform to the best of your abilities, but in most cases it has far more negative effects. This is my little list of why you should stop caring what other people think:

1) It will make you happy
As long as you worry about the opinions of others’, it will control the way you live your life. You will be miserable. You will constantly try to please everyone around you which is impossible to do! Focus on what you want, and what brings you joy – this way you know for sure that at least one person (and the most important person, in this case) is happy.

2) You will be less stressed
If you try to please everyone around you because you’re so concerned that they might think badly of you, it will stress you out to no end. The faster you learn to not let it get to you, the faster you will get rid of the unnecessary stress it causes. There is so much more you can gain from a single day if you cut out the negativity that comes with worrying about another person’s opinion. At the end of the day, if your choice makes you sleep better at night and puts an extra bit of bounce in your step, then that is all that matters really.

3) You will not resent others’
If you are not following a path that YOU have chosen for yourself, you will become resentful. This could make you really bitter because you will not be able to be happy for the next person who does their own thing as it reminds you of the possibilities you might have missed. And so the vicious cycle continues its rapid spin; creating another unhappy, cynical person in this world, who places the exact kind of stress on another person – the same kind of stress, mind you, that you were trying to avoid for yourself to start with.

4) You cannot make everyone happy
And quite frankly, you shouldn’t try! Those who matter will support you and encourage you to do what you want to do, simply because they want to see you happy. Anyone who has something negative to say based on choices you make (that you feel are the right ones for you) are people who are not brave enough to take the necessary steps required to change their own lives for the better.

It can be extremely difficult to ignore what people think. Sometimes we do it without meaning to and it causes more harm than good most of the time. But in order to find peace and happiness, in order to be satisfied with the choices you have made for yourself, you need to figure out how to stop caring too much about what others’ have to say. Live your life for yourself – you will thank yourself one day!

– Nihaad

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14 thoughts on “Why you should not care what people think

      • khansana1000 says:

        yes, I love reading and I will often stop by for such visits ! I recently won over this battle of what others think about me when I started my Hijab , I feel more at peace with out worrying for something which has no importance at the end when we are gone, πŸ™‚

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      • Nihaad says:

        I experience that a lot now too – when I got married I started wearing Hijab and people (family and friends, most of whom are Muslim) questioned and commented on it. It upsets me that people are so judgmental and I salute you for writing about your experience, which is why you will see me often on your side too πŸ™‚

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  1. sorayashenemckenzie says:

    I absolutely 100% agree with you on this. It is very difficult but worrying too much about what everyone thinks of you holds you back from waaaaay too many opportunities in life. I am trying to train myself to care less and do this for ME instead of doing it for someone elses approval. And I am gaining happiness. Alhamdulilah!

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    • Nihaad says:

      Alghamdulillah that is wonderful! You living your life for yourself, and if you pass any opportunity then you are the one who has to live with that regrets. If everyone works on themselves amd on their own happiness and stop worrying about others’ if they are happy the world might just be a little better.

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